{"id":1592,"date":"2017-07-28T20:28:57","date_gmt":"2017-07-29T01:28:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/belovedlove.org\/reflections\/?p=1592"},"modified":"2019-05-17T14:22:53","modified_gmt":"2019-05-17T19:22:53","slug":"distraction-detours","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/belovedlove.org\/reflections\/2017\/07\/28\/distraction-detours\/","title":{"rendered":"Distraction Detours"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Two<\/a>by Lydia Floren<\/p>\n

We all get distracted from time to time, especially those of us with ADD. Here is an example of what I call a “distraction detour” from my life recently:<\/p>\n

I am finishing a task in the kitchen before I head out to run errands, and realize I need something from upstairs, so I run up to get it.\u00a0 I walk into the spare bedroom, and immediately notice that it is a mess. I pick up a book and put it on its shelf. And then I rearrange the shelf a little. And before I know it I have completely organized the room.<\/p>\n

And then I look at the clock.<\/p>\n

\u00a0Two hours. I\u2019ve been up here two hours.<\/i> How in the world did I get started on this?\u00a0 Oh yeah, I came up here looking for something…what exactly was I looking for?<\/i><\/p>\n

I shrug my shoulders, and hurry back down to the kitchen.\u00a0 As I enter, my eyes fall on a T.J. Max bag sitting on the counter. Oh yeah, the baby shower gift. That\u2019s why I went upstairs: I needed a gift bag. \u00a0<\/i> I turn around and climb back up the stairs muttering \u201cgift bag, gift bag, gift bag\u201d with every step, so I won\u2019t forget why I came upstairs this time, and end up getting side-tracked all over again.<\/p>\n

Sigh. Distractions happen. And occasionally–more for some of us than others– they sidetrack us. An unplanned two hour detour in a busy day, shoots a hole in our careful plans, and keeps us from accomplishing as much as we had hoped.\u00a0 But we don\u2019t have to let these DD\u2019s ruin our day. \u00a0 When my day is disrupted by a Distraction Detour, I get frustrated with myself for letting it happen. All too often, I will continue ranting at myself for the rest of the day every time I think about it.<\/p>\n

What is wrong with you? Can\u2019t you even go upstairs and find a stupid gift bag in under two hours?\u00a0 Look at the time! Even if I hurry the rest of the day, I\u2019ll never get everything done now!<\/i><\/p>\n

Distraction detours impact our plans, but they don\u2019t have to steal our joy.<\/h4>\n

So what\u2019s a person to do when you recognize you have a DD?\u00a0 And how do you keep a Detour from turning into a Disaster? Here\u2019s a few things I have learned in my long experience with DD\u2019s:<\/p>\n

PUSH THE RESET BUTTON<\/a>.<\/h4>\n

As soon as you realize what is happening, stop.\u00a0 Take a deep breath. Give thanks. As my friend Denise often reminds me, \u201cThere is always always always something to be thankful for.\u201d\u00a0 Next, walk through the rest of the GRACE pneumonic we\u2019ve talked about before (see Living GRACE<\/a>)\u2014Give thanks, Release, Accept, Continue, Enjoy.<\/p>\n

Give thanks<\/b>. Thank You, God, for my mind, no matter how scattered it gets. For Your love and patience, for the way You made me. Thank You that You <\/i>multiply my time<\/i><\/a>, and will help me to do what is most important without worrying. And thank you for what I got done these last 2 hours, even if it wasn\u2019t on today\u2019s to do list.<\/i><\/p>\n

Release<\/b>. I give all my time to you, and all my plans. I release myself from the expectation of perfection. \u00a0 Please show me how to give myself grace, and lighten up a little (or a lot). And help me to quit “<\/i>shoulding<\/a>“<\/i> on myself.<\/i><\/p>\n

Accept<\/b>. Here\u2019s where I am now, Father. It\u2019s __o\u2019clock. I have ___ hrs left in the day.\u00a0 As I regroup, show me what is most important. Help me to <\/i>eliminate and concentrate<\/i><\/a>. \u00a0<\/i><\/p>\n

[You might make a short to-do list, 3-5 things, depending on how much time is left.]<\/p>\n

Continue<\/b>.\u00a0 Start out fresh, right where you are, as if it was the beginning of the day,<\/p>\n

Enjoy\u00a0 <\/b>the rest of the day, free of worry and minus the self-guilt trip. God understands, and he loves us just like we are. So lighten up.\u00a0 Laugh<\/a> a little, and then a lot.<\/p>\n

Distraction detours happen to all of us. Don\u2019t let them highjack your joy. Be kind to yourself. Step back, regroup, handle them with GRACE.\u00a0 Laugh a little (and then a lot) and move on!<\/p>\n

Don’t remember the former things; don’t dwell on things past. Isaiah 43:18<\/p>\n

Rejoice in the Lord always. Phil 4:4<\/p>\n

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