{"id":1118,"date":"2015-10-23T10:00:12","date_gmt":"2015-10-23T15:00:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/belovedlove.org\/reflections\/?p=1118"},"modified":"2019-05-17T13:46:17","modified_gmt":"2019-05-17T18:46:17","slug":"do-i-do-that","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/belovedlove.org\/reflections\/2015\/10\/23\/do-i-do-that\/","title":{"rendered":"Do I Do That?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/belovedlove.org\/reflections\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/Do-I-Do-That-102215.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-1122\" src=\"http:\/\/belovedlove.org\/reflections\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/Do-I-Do-That-102215-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"Do I Do That 10:22:15\" width=\"625\" height=\"417\" srcset=\"https:\/\/belovedlove.org\/reflections\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/Do-I-Do-That-102215-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/belovedlove.org\/reflections\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/Do-I-Do-That-102215-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/belovedlove.org\/reflections\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/Do-I-Do-That-102215-624x416.jpg 624w, https:\/\/belovedlove.org\/reflections\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/Do-I-Do-That-102215.jpg 1800w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 625px) 100vw, 625px\" \/><\/a>by Lydia Floren<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t people just annoy you sometimes? \u00a0For example, maybe<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You\u2019re in a hurry, and someone\u2019s blocking traffic. \u00a0<em>Really? \u00a0There is a slow lane for a reason, buddy.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>All your friends are talking about a great party last week, and you weren\u2019t invited. \u00a0<em>What\u2019s that about?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Someone talks too loud at the next table of the restaurant, or crowds you in the airplane seat, or gets ahead of you in line. \u00a0<em>Tone it down already. Keep to yourself. Wait your turn.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Annoyances can quickly change a decent day into a crappy day.<\/p>\n<p>A remedy:<br \/>\nMy sister, Rebekah, taught me a great tip to counter this tendency to let people get to me. When she starts to get annoyed with someone, she\u2019s learned to stop and ask herself this simple question:<\/p>\n<p><strong>Do I do that?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve been trying it. \u00a0When I sense my irritation rising, and <strong>I remember to ask myself, &#8220;Do I do that?\u201d<\/strong>, my mind shifts gears. \u00a0That simple question prompts me to look at things from a different perspective, and to think about someone else &#8211; not just myself. \u00a0And, of course, It doesn\u2019t take long for my answer to slam me in the gut:<\/p>\n<p>Do I do that? \u00a0Yes, yes I do:<\/p>\n<p>Yes, there are times when I block traffic.<br \/>\nYes, I do hurt people\u2019s feelings (albeit unknowingly).<br \/>\nYes, I can be rude. \u00a0Or just plain selfish.<\/p>\n<p>But wait wait wait. \u00a0This is ME. \u00a0I don\u2019t <em>mean<\/em> to be vexing. \u00a0YOU understand, don\u2019t you? \u00a0Don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n<p>Aah. I get it. If I am not trying to annoy YOU, maybe &#8211; just maybe &#8211; YOU aren\u2019t trying to annoy ME either. \u00a0And you know, maybe &#8211; just maybe &#8211; I am on edge for an entirely different reason.<\/p>\n<p>Asking <strong>\u201cDo I do that?\u201d<\/strong> prompts me to give grace to others, and grace to myself.<\/p>\n<p>Try it. \u00a0The next time you find yourself getting annoyed with someone ask<\/p>\n<p><strong>Do I do that?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Let me know how it goes! I\u2019d love to hear from you!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Lydia Floren Don\u2019t people just annoy you sometimes? \u00a0For example, maybe You\u2019re in a hurry, and someone\u2019s blocking traffic. \u00a0Really? \u00a0There is a slow lane for a reason, buddy. All your friends are talking about a great party last week, and you weren\u2019t invited. \u00a0What\u2019s that about? 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