This week’s post is from a guest writer, Rebekah Lowe:
Waiting is hell. Okay, it isn’t, but it is really, really hard.
I have just come through a time of waiting, and it was no day at the beach. Unless it is a day with sunburn, sand in your shorts, and lots of jellyfish. Waiting is hard. Even when I know all the things. Like, that I don’t want to rush ahead of God’s best choice for me. And that I can trust that there is a good reason that I am waiting. And that He always thinks up better solutions for me than I do for myself. And that He will take care of me in the meantime, while I wait. Still…
We were going to sell our house and move. Not just for fun. But because we needed to reduce our expenses. It took us awhile to face facts, to understand that a move was necessary. But we came to realize it, researched best options to sell, and put the house on the market. In terms of real estate markets, we live in a hot neighborhood, in a hot city, and it was Spring. The triple threat, right? We thought we would sell the house in a couple of days, for near asking price. Everyone said so. We had watched God sell houses with remarkable speed for us several times before. I was fond of saying, “God does real estate!”, and He certainly does, just as he does anything He chooses to do for us.
The first weekend came and went, with many lookers, but no offers. We visited another possible home for us, and began to calculate what we might offer for that place.
The first month came and went, with many lookers, but no offers. We dropped the price a little, and I made my first of many spreadsheets, so I could analyze what we might net, at any given price.
I’m sorry to say, the first year came and went. Year!!! By then, I was just about at my wit’s end. Price drops, a different real estate company, nothing seemed to help. I still knew, just knew, that I dare not try to wrest control back from God. Not that He wouldn’t let me, He would have. God is a gentleman, as Lydia Floren says.
Rather, I knew whatever options I could manufacture would never live up to whatever He was waiting for. AND, it seemed pretty evident that factors that made sense in this world, like market strength, price points, and selling strategies were not the barriers.
So, I waited. Not without complaint. Not all that patiently. With the encouragement of my friends, I waited. With pleas for Him to do whatever needed doing, I waited. With Him meeting our needs all along the way, I waited.
And last week, He sold the house. I still don’t know why we were waiting, God and me, but I know that good things came from it.
- During the last year, I went from reluctantly selling the house to being thrilled that the house sold: God gave me plenty of time to get used to the idea. Maybe He knew I wasn’t ready.
- I remembered what it is to wait without knowing what we are waiting for. May I never blithely comfort a friend who is waiting again!
- I learned yet again that God will continue to meet my needs, one step at a time. Apparently, I have to relearn this regularly. Maybe this will help me with a much harder problem down the road.
- We found a wonderful new home that wasn’t available when our house went on the market. Maybe someone in that neighborhood needs me, or maybe I need them. Or, maybe God just thought it was a cute place for us.
So, if you are waiting, you have my full understanding, and buckets of empathy. If you belong to God, what I cannot give you is sympathy. Because, despite how it feels, good things are in the works for you, and you are being cared for all along the way. This interminable waiting will end, and end well.
And remember the quote from the movie, “The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel?” The hotel manager is reassuring a guest and says, encouragingly, “Everything will be all right in the end. If it’s not all right, it is not yet the end.” So true for God’s people: if it is not yet all right, it is not yet the end. Just you wait.